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Reader Damon H. (Queens, NY) passes on this article from the WSJ: The Rare Workers Who Thrive on Negative Feedback.
The gist is this: although most of us avoid negative feedback, some people actually seek it out and thrive off of it.
Chalk one up for those with a growth mindset:
- “People who thrive on feedback tend to be strivers who believe they can improve their skills and abilities.”
They don’t receive negative feedback by chance. They explicitly ask for it:
- “They’ve embraced personal goals so compelling that they see criticism as a tool for helping reach them, rather than a setback.”
Here’s one example:
- “Cheri Spets Farmer says she realized years ago that her colleagues noticed her shortcomings before she did.”
- “She realized that if you don’t ask, you may be the last person to see your own weaknesses.”
- “She has requested critiques from colleagues and clients ever since.”
In a nutshell:
- People with a growth mindset experience a realization: negative feedback helps them grow
- They begin asking colleagues for negative feedback
- They act on that feedback and grow as a result
They become better at asking for negative feedback. They become better at hearing negative feedback. And their colleagues increasingly see them as easy to give feedback to.
You can see the virtuous cycle.
There’s more in there, including a piece about how those with “close ties with others at work tend to seek tougher reviews”. Relationships baby!
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